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The decision to tell your children about your transgender status is one that requires much thought and consideration.Once you’ve tackled self-acceptance and have disclosed your secret to your partner, it’s understandable that you’d want your children to know.  Apart from confronting all those feelings of guilt, low self-esteem and isolation, it would give you the freedom to fully explore and express yourself.  Perhaps more importantly, it would also remove the constant worry of being found out accidentally.Telling your children can be a lot more challenging than telling your partner.  It’s only natural for you to be concerned about their reaction.  “Will they understand?  Will they think I’m perverted or weird?  Maybe they won’t want anything more to do with me.  Will this news corrupt their minds or lead to psychological problems?  Will they tell the whole neighbourhood?”  Such fears are perfectly valid.To maximize your chances of acceptance, it’s a good idea to get your partner on board.  Discuss your feelings about telling the children and make sure you have her support.  If your partner has negative feelings about you crossdressing, this will show when it’s disclosed to the children and will give mixed messages.  If she hasn’t fully come to terms with things yet or isn’t ready for the kids to know, respect her views and wait for the right time.  Don’t push it.How Old Should Children Be When They Find Out?The general opinion is to tell the children when they’re old enough to understand what you’re saying, without being judgemental.  Typically, this would be between the age of 7 and 11 years.  Before this, they’re probably too young to grasp the situation (and you risk the whole school finding out the next day!).  When adolescence begins, the abundance of hormones makes it impossible for you to get any kind of ‘normal’ response.  Added to the fact that teenagers are most concerned about and influenced by their peers, this stage is probably best avoided.  Research shows that the middle period – generally between the ages of 7 and 11- is when children are best able to handle significant changes in their lives.Important FactorsIt is generally easier to tell children about cross dressing if the family is a close unit and encourages the sharing of personal feelings and experiences. Openness and communication are key.  This type of family dynamic is more likely to experience acceptance.  If this doesn’t sound familiar to you, I would suggest that you spend some time working on creating this type of environment before telling your children.  It will surely make things easier for everyone.When Is A Good Time To Make The Announcement?Some cross dressers believe that the announcement is best made around Halloween or after a fancy dress party, when a costume is worn.  A discussion about dressing up can easily be started and followed by something along the lines of “Daddy also likes to dress up at other times”.  You can then go on to explain cross dressing in a way that is appropriate for the child’s age.  It’s only natural that the child may express curiosity about seeing you dressed.  If this is the case, don’t be afraid to let him/her see the transformation so that they understand that it’s still you underneath.Being Caught in the ActIf a child catches you in the act, don’t overreact.  Change back into your male clothes and talk to the child as quickly as possible in order to minimise the fear and anxiety.There’s no doubt that the matter is a delicate one and should be handled as such.  I have known cross dressers who have chosen not to tell their children, fearing that this knowledge would seriously jeopardise their relationship.  Only you can make this decision.

It’s the start of a new school year, and A.J.’s third-grade teacher, Mr. Granite, is out of this world! He’s a supergenius who talks weird, acts weird, and looks weird. He knows everything. Is he a computer posing as a person, or does he come from another planet?

This series is so funny. It is about 2nd grade children and their days at school. Each book is about a different teacher.

It’s hilarious! It says funny things. A girl runs into a cow and, as usual, the teacher is crazy. GREAT SERIES – HIGHLY RECOMMEND!!!

The weirdness never stops!

The new vice principal of Ella Mentry School has some crazy ideas on how to teach kids. A.J. and the gang have to stand on their heads while they do math! They have to take a spelling test underwater! Everybody has to do yoga! Could it possibly get any weirder?
About the Author

Dan Gutman is the author of many fantastic books for young readers. Besides his popular Baseball Card Adven-tures and My Weird School series, he has written about soccer, basketball, bowling, and aliens. When he is not writing books, Dan is very often visiting a school. Thanks to his many fans who voted in their classrooms, he has received fifteen state book awards and thirty-seven book award nominations. Dan lives in Haddonfield, New Jersey, with his wife, Nina, and their two children, Sam and Emma.