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A few years ago I recall the looks of pity my friend Sarah would get when she mentioned she’d been trying online dating. I must admit, at the time I thought she must be desperate; couldn’t she meet anyone in ‘real’ life? Didn’t she meet people at work, or at parties? I judged her actions and concluded she must be either a bit weird or socially inept. Of course, you know I wouldn’t be writing about this if she had never met anyone… sure enough, she met a guy online and fell in love. And he didn’t live in Bahrain either, he lived in her town.Just one experience like this in your own circle of friends can make you question your hasty judgments. So could online dating prove to be a mainstream way of meeting people, or would it remain in the margins of society? Is it humiliating to look for people online?Well let’s say you’re busy all day at work (nobody eligible there), you go out twice a week with your usual group of friends (been there, dated them), and the rest of the time you’re washing dishes, doing laundry, cleaning your home (or more likely a combination of Facebook, TV and surfing the net); realistically, HOW MANY NEW PEOPLE ARE YOU LIKELY TO MEET? Even if you met one new person a week, how many of those are likely to be a good match? One in a hundred? At that rate, it would take a couple of years to meet someone you could fall for. Not bad. But in the meantime, you’ve spent two years alone!So let’s say you look at these statistics and realize you need to up the odds of meeting someone. You do the logical thing and search a database of three million people on a UK dating site. Isn’t it still a bit like shopping for a laptop on Amazon?! Isn’t it less ‘real’ than bumping into someone at a party?Well is email less ‘real’ than talking? Be honest, which do you do more of these days? Be even more honest, which mode of communication would you prefer when meeting someone for the first time? THIS was the main factor that converted me. Talking to someone new that you like the look of is hard! Actually initiating communication is WAY easier online; you get to think through what you say and how you’re coming across, you don’t have to worry about blushing or sweating or your mouth going dry. No more nervous chat-up lines and stuttered introductions. Unless you’re a ‘player’, you’ll be REALLY glad of the generous advantages that online communication gives you.Yes there are negatives – you can’t completely check someone out until you meet them in person and pick up on the non-verbal communication. But let’s say you meet ten people a week now – even if only one of those turns out to be eligible, you’ve increased your chances of meeting someone by 1000% over the natural method I mentioned earlier! Can’t argue with that.In conclusion, it didn’t take much to convert me. eHarmony claims to be responsible for over 2% of marriages in the USA. That is incredible. A long time ago, online dating seemed to me like a last resort for lonely people. Now I am convinced that it is surely the best place to start.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone was super supportive of everything you wanted to do!

The truth is however that not everyone is supportive all of the time.  And some people seem to make it their life’s mission to thwart your efforts at every opportunity.

Why do they do that?  And what, if anything can you do about it?

The weird thing about unsupportive people is that very often they think they are being supportive.  Like a parent who punishes a child “for their own good,” unsupportive people often think they have your best interests in mind.  The thing is that they don’t see the world from your perspective.  Instead they see the world from their own perspective, and then go about trying to project that perspective on to everyone around them (including you).

When you realize this then you also understand that unsupportive people usually aren’t out to get you.  They are simply offering input from their own experience and view of life.  So what can you do about it, especially if you’re stuck with those people?

One of the easiest and most effective things you can do is to stop expecting to receive support from those people.  They’ve already proven they can’t give it (or can’t give it in the way you need).  If you continue to demand support from them, especially support in a certain way, it will just lead to tension and frustration.  No one needs that.

Instead find people who will support you in the way you need.  This may mean meeting new people, joining a group, or even getting professional help.  But once you find people who are supportive your attitude, and success rate, will improve immeasurably.

Also realize that you may get different kinds of support from different people.  One person may be excellent at offering support for your healthy lifestyle efforts but may be very unsupportive when it comes to relationships.  Be ok with getting different types of support from different people.

And finally, the wider network of support you build the more supported you’ll feel overall.  It’s much better to have 5 people you can call on a certain issue than one who isn’t answering the phone.

Here’s to your excellent support team

We all have been there at one point. You hit a wall, whether it is a personal wall in a relationship or a professional wall with a glass ceiling or a money cap. You know when you at a wall. Maybe it’s the unknown wall like this economy. So you’re at this wall. It could have shot up over night or it could have been there all along as the pink elephant you never would look at. Whether you’re at a mile high, mile thick, 400 miles to the right and left wall, now or if a bigger one pops up tomorrow, how do you get by the wall.

It all has to do with mindset. “Whether you think you can or think you cannot you are right”. Said by Henry Ford. “Do or do not there is not try”. Has been said by Yoda. For some it seems effortless, for you and I it’s a lot of work, worry and stress. Stepping beyond our comfort zone a bit to get around the wall. The choice is yours you can stand at the wall of defeat or do something that seems weird or hokey. Anybody that was or is somebody that people look up to or envy in some way, started as just somebody with a dream. They step beyond their walls and challenges.

Changing your mental mindset is a challenge but far less of a challenge than most think. It can be as hard or easy as you make it to be. That wall could be paper thin and just look solid. Three quick and easy tips to making people like you just a little better.

First get rid of the “Dream Crushers”, constantly negative news, and walk away from the fire hosers, you know the people who always put out your dreams and ideas. Loved ones and friends do it all the time out of a scarcity mindset. Don’t make them wrong just know they do it out of miss guided concern. Talk with the loved ones let them know you will not be watching TV as much. Let the friends set on the sidelines. If they are all driving 10 year old clunkers and you want to drive a brand new car you pay cash with, they’re holding you back. A true friend will see what you are doing and truly understand.

Second, take ten minutes and think about this. In those ten minutes you are going to think about what you really want to do in life. The house, the vacations you want do go on, the hobbies you have always wanted to start, the family you always wanted put it all on the paper. So take ten minutes to think. Then you have 20 minutes to write it all down on the paper. What’s not on the paper after 20 minutes you will not get. We have all heard there is no such thing as something for nothing. Well it’s true. Now here is the weird. Take that paper you put your dream on in that 20 minutes and put it in the self help or mindset book of your choice. When you’re done with one book move it to the next or better yet, take 10 to think and write out your dreams again in 20 minutes. Put that in your next book.

That paper you are giving the book is you’re something to get something in return. You gave the book your dreams and the book in return gives you the mindset to get what you want. Think of it this way. You already have the account number to your million dollar bank account and two of the four digit pin code. The other two digits are in the mindset you just have to find and uncover the last two numbers and the riches are yours.

Third, don’t just read and skim your way through the books you read. Yes skim through a chapter and make some notes about what jumped out at you. But after that, right after go back and really read the chapter. Then take more notes and summarize in your own words what you read and what it means to you. Then at the end of the book do a final report of what and how you can use the information in your life or your business.

These mindset, self help, self improvement books have most all of the answers. Use them as your personal mastermind group. Whether you are improving your relationship with your loved ones, your spirit, your business follow these quick and easy steps and the mile high walls that once stopped you in your tracks are now paper thin and with one easy step the wall is now behind you. Take what you learned at this wall and the next wall or challenge is effortless.

People may associate Kabbalah with a weird or unique style. This is often because many people do not know the truth about it. What Kabbalah is, is part of the Jewish religion but it deals more with the mystical side of the religion. It has a lot to do with your soul and the fate of your soul. You do not have to be Jewish to follow Kabbalah and there are many aspects of the religion that you do not need and religious background to follow. There is a very religious side of Kabbalah that is enrooted in the Jewish faith while other side of it is not. Depending on what you think is more appropriate for you and your lifestyle is the one you should choose. Kabbalah is one of the oldest religions out there with people practicing it for more than 1,000 years. This is why so many people have picked up these magical practices and have been using them in their daily life. If you do not want to change religions to pick up a new religion, there is one aspect of it that anyone can do no matter what religion they are, and that part is the wearing of a Kabbalah bracelet. What a Kabbalah bracelet is, is a special bracelet that you wear on your wrist that will help you protect yourself from the evilness of others. This evilness is usually passed through looks of envy or jealousy. Many people have experienced those types of looks before and know exactly what I am talking about. These bracelets you normally wear on your left wrist to help you cope with those looks everyday. The people who most commonly need these bracelets are children and babies because there are so many people in the world who do not have children who are envious of others and the children themselves, so even if you do not want to purchase one for yourself it may be a good idea to purchase one for your children, grandchildren, or even a friends children. If you feel like you do not need help with people being envious of you there are other reasons to wear Kabbalah Bracelets as well. Some of the other really cool reasons why Kabbalah bracelets are so popular is because they help keep you healthy, as well as protect you from other forms of sickness whether it be mental or physical health. These are an excellent gift for a friend who may be sick or going through a very tough time. This is because they may give that special person the gift of hope that can help them get through that difficult time in their life whether it is through fighting a disease or just going through a hard time in their home or work life.

Courageous is the word we should label severe anxiety disorder victims, not weird or weak. What gets to me is the people that are the first to judge are the ones that have never in there life experienced an attack, so there first impressions of someone who has this illness are freaks. This article is a must read, I want to point out to anyone carrying this guilt around, that you guys need to stop, and give your selves a break, realistically you are the brave ones.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

Most of the time it is hard for outsides to even imagine how every day chores are a problem to a sufferer. The scary thing is severe anxiety disorder can sneak up so quickly any time, and invade the lives of so called normal people in an instant. It is a silent creeper, so do not think that it only happens to the weak. Your definitely not alone.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

Today you could feel normal and tomorrow may be a totally different story, anxiety can take full control over your mind like a thief in the night. Every day stuff you take for granted could all of a sudden be the most frightening things, just normal things like shopping, coffee with friends, dinner with your husband, I mean really simple things can put fear into anyone that has severe anxiety disorder.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

Most victims begin to loose all faith in your capabilities, they start to become frightened of the most ridiculous things so it is easier for them to stay indoors, not venture out as much. We call it the protection mechanism, avoiding venues so you do not have the risk of having to face an anxiety attack.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

Now the reason you guys are brave in my eyes is due to the fact you get up each morning and just get on with the day, ever set back you are faced with you have to dust your self off, and carry on even though you fight off demons each  and ever single day. Life is hard enough with having to carry around an extra voice in your head, so guys you do deserve a metal.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

I Want to be open, and completely honest with you guys for just a moment, the hardest challenge I ever had to face in my life was waking up with this disorder, for what reason I still do not know. It stole 13 years of my life, but not all was lost, because after I was taught how to control severe anxiety disorder, I gain more confidence then I knew what to do with.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

 The doors that have open to me from that point on have been incredible. I like the person I have become, so my point is when ever there is a set back yes, it is tough but use this to your best advantage, strength comes from with in, you can lose strength to fight, as quickly as you can gain it. This is not a terminal illness it is a temporary set back.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

So for me it has been a blessing in disguise having been a victim to severe anxiety disorder, I personally do not regret a thing, the end result is all that matters and mine has been a good, no a GREAT one!

have become, so my point is when ever there is a set back yes, it is tough but use this to your best advantage, strength comes from with in, you can lose strength to fight, as quickly as you can gain it. This is not a terminal illness it is a temporary set back.

Just Because You  Have Severe Anxiety Disorder  NEVER Think You Weak or Weird!

So for me it has been a blessing in disguise having been a victim to severe anxiety disorder, I personally do not regret a thing, the end result is all that matters and mine has been a good, no a GREAT one!